are a Mom~ You
You are a Mom~ You are aWife~ You are a Lady~
Don't run from who you are ~ embrace it!
Perched For Flight ~ By Paula Moldenhauer
My little girl is sixteen. Baby dolls are long packed away and her room is cluttered with earrings, make-up, and hairdryers. Only two more years and she graduates from high school. My role of mothering is changing constantly. Protective mama hands are opening wider and wider, setting my butterfly free. It's joyous to watch her wings expand and grow stronger as she perches upon my palm, fluttering, almost ready for full flight.
I don't pretend to understand how to navigate this season. I have big ideas of how I want it to be. I want my daughter to feel free to follow God's promptings in her life. I don't want her to be afraid of my response as she steps into the world of adulthood. I want to let go of control and trust her to make her own way.
I've made plenty of mistakes as I've raised this amazing young young woman. I hope I'll be able to admit them freely and accept her forgiveness, not clinging to pride or allowing my faults (or hers) to come between us.
I dream of transitioning from parent to friend. Will we someday meet for coffee and chatter away? But I also hope she'll still let me be mom sometimes - like when she has her own babies and the toilet floods and the laundry baskets overflow and her husband loses his job. I hope she calls to cry a bit and that I'll be able to say, " I understand. It'll all be okay." I'll go to her house, fold her laundry, and then whisk away her children so she and her husband can have a date.
Motherhood is painfully wonderful. It is exciting, beautiful, scary, demanding, and completely beyond my ability to handle. I've always known I can't make it as a mom without God's help. This time of change is one more reminder of how much I need His whisper in my soul, telling me how to respond to stretching wings, what to say, and how to act (or not act!)
Somehow, I have to let go and help my child learn to fly all at the same time.
But I suppose that's what I've been doing for years.
Perhaps you, too, have a fluttering butterfly or powerful young eagle perched on your palm. Maybe your baby just graduated from high school or got his driver's license, or reached some other milestone, like finishing kindergarten or learning to ride her bike. Motherhood is a journey of letting go. May God give us the grace to do so, little by little.
"Father God, we long to give our children the best. Help us to let go of our petty plans for them and to trust You to lead them in Yours. Make our children wise and strong and teach them to fly."
~ A mother of four, Paula Moldenhauer is passionate about God's grace and intimacy with Jesus. Her website offers book reviews, home schooling hints, and a free weekly devotional, Soul Scents. Subscribe to Soul Scents at www.soulscents.us. Visit her blog at www.gracereign.blogspot.com Contact Paula at Paula@soulscents.us.