Emphasis On Moms     

 You are a Mom ~   You are a Wife ~   You are a Lady ~

       Don't run from who you are ~ embrace it!





But the Fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Galatians 5:22-23

~We all desire to instill good character into our children.  Sometimes we just feel a little lost and don't know where to begin!  May these character columns help you find a little focus and direction.





Joyfulness: full of joy; very glad; exulting; great gladness. (Noah Webster 1828)

What does God say about Joyfulness?

 9-12Be assured that from the first day we heard of you, we haven't stopped praying for you, asking God to give you wise minds and spirits attuned to his will, and so acquire a thorough understanding of the ways in which God works. We pray that you'll live well for the Master, making him proud of you as you work hard in his orchard. As you learn more and more how God works, you will learn how to do your work. We pray that you'll have the strength to stick it out over the long haul—not the grim strength of gritting your teeth but the glory-strength God gives. It is strength that endures the unendurable and spills over into joy, thanking the Father who makes us strong enough to take part in everything bright and beautiful that he has for us. Colossians 1:11 (The Message)

 11But let all those that put their trust in thee rejoice: let them ever shout for joy, because thou defendest them: let them also that love thy name be joyful in thee. Psalm 5:11 (King James Version)

Why is being Joyful important?  When we wake up in the morning we begin the day with choices.  We can choose to be happy in our heart and in our actions or choose to be sad, bummed or nothing.  As we open our eyes and ears in the start of the day we may be awoken to dogs licking our faces, babies crying, kids scrambling to get ready and fighting over space in the bathroom and the alarm that won't go off.  Well all these examples can present a distraction to our longing to exemplify joy.  Instead of having all of the vitamin D rays that God infused that first part of the day basking into our eyes, coffee brewing and sweet melodies of praise music playing in the background we slip into "go" mode and survival of the fittest.  Joy takes a back seat to sweat, blood and tears and so the dilemma recirculates day after day, unless...we choose Joy.  Jesus, Others , Yourself.

The "Mom struggle and possible solutions":  Okay so we all get the realities of the morning choices of joy or what not, so how do we stay on track and keep the joy in our hearts and homes?  We first can look at an amazing example of deep joy.  In the book of Acts, chapter 16, we see Paul in prison and full of joy.  Of course we might think that guy is pretty whacked out of his mind to be so happy in such a miserable position, but his joy didn't come from his environment or circumstances it came from Jesus being inside his heart.  Which is always a great place to look when we aren't experiencing a deep joy.  Nehemiah put it this way in chapter 8 verse 10, The joy of the Lord is my strength.  Like Paul we can sometimes find ourselves in a position where we feel or even are, beat up physically/emotionally or spiritually, mocked, and left to die.  He knew that greater was He who was in him, than he who was in the world.  So even if we wake up and are immediately faced with craziness God can still be the calm in our storm.  Ways to meet the challenge is with purpose and planning.  First and foremost as parents we have the awesome privilege of setting the tone.  Examples of morning routine~

       *Have everyone in the family greet each other with a smile, hug or with words of "Good morning".

       *Pre-set your alarm to be playing K-Love or some kind of radio station or ipod music that is worship oriented.

       *Anyone who starts off with a grouchy attitude or is acting disruptive has to go back to their bed until they get things taken care of with their Father in heaven.  aka "attitude of gratitude checkup!" (as many times as it takes to break the bad habit)

       *Have no one speak unless they first THINK...is it Thoughtful?, Honest?, Important?, Needful? or Kind?  A good practice all the time!

       *Begin the day enjoying breakfast together with family devotions.  Not only is breakfast proven to be the best and most important meal of the day, but research is showing that families that pray and eat together are stronger knitted families.
Also tea, coffee and or muffins can be a fun treat for you to connect in a joyful way anytime of day!

       *Make a joyful noise to the Lord, all the Earth. Psalm 98:4 so grab some music makers and gather up your family to Sing!                

"If you're Joyful and You Show it" together (to the tune: If You're Happy and You Know It)
If you're joyful and you show it, you'll give God praise. (clap your hands twice)
If you're joyful and you show it, you'll give God praise. (clap your hands twice)
                         You'll be happy in your heart
                         And feel His peace within
                If you're joyful and you show it, you'll give God praise.

       *Pray and ask God to write his words upon your heart so that you have them memorized and you know that you know he has carved them in, "If you obey my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have obeyed my Father's commands and remain in his love.  I have told you this so that my JOY may be in you and that your JOY may be complete".

       *Ask God to increase your Joy, in your attitude, responses to life challenges and just everyday life.

       *Practice your Joyfulness to the glory of God.  1Samuel 2:30  For those who honor God God will honor.

       *Plan ahead and make a date with your child, or teen or college student individually.  Financially you may not be able to do something expensive like a meal at a nice restaurant, but you could share a meal somewhere affordable.  Maybe just sneak away for a smoothie or coffee and treat.  During your outing rekindle the Joy of your love for your precious child from the perspective of our Heavenly Father.  Encouraging, confessing your sorrow for how you acted toward them harshly or whatever the case, and smile.  Cause a Joyful experience for them to treasure in their memory bank.  You will regret not taking the time but you will Never regret sharing in that time together. 

Encouragement and Exhortation: 

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.  And just like I tell my kiddos, you don't have to get it or like it or agree with it, you just need to do with a willing heart knowing that as you obey and go with God's will and do your best,  He will take care of the rest.