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People Pleasers  ~ By Dionna Sanchez

 

Are you a "people pleaser?"  Do you have a really hard time saying, "no?"

I am a "people pleaser." I could say that I am "reformed" but that would be a lie as I know a big part of me is still learning and working on letting go of others expectations and standards of me.  I am really proud of myself though - I'm doing much better.  You see, I have been learning (the hard way), that I will never be able to be "all" to all people.  It's easy to say that, but to follow through with your actions and let people down or know that sometimes you might be resented because you didn't conform or do something else you wanted to do... well, those are two very different things!

I heard it said somewhere that you have allowed yourself to become a servant to whomever it is that you are trying to please.  That is really, so very true.  If you think about it, you are letting others opinions of you dictate how you spend your time.  And that's a big gamble in how you spend your life!

I speak to myself as I write.  I want to have a servant's heart always - but not a slave's mentality.  It can become such a web of always trying to do better, more, or keep up - it's just so futile!

I think it's important to know one thing about us people pleasers - we have huge hearts.  We are the kind of people who can help a soul heal, listen when the rest of the world has faded away, or encourage someone to be a better, stronger person.  But we can also be taken for granted. 

I want to encourage all you "people pleasing" women out there to lower your head in prayer and ask God to give you  the strength you need to refuse, restrain, and redirect your attentions where you KNOW you need to.  Sometimes our family pays the price for our submissive "yes's" to too many functions, activities, and offers.  They need to see us stand up straight in a healthy way and pick and choose a little more often about where we spend our time.

I sure don't want other people to dictate where and how I spend my time.  And I'm learning (slowly) that it feels great to make decisions for myself even if they go against the flow.  I do so hope you will join me.

 

~ Dionna Sanchez is gaining strength with the Lord's help to be who she wants to be and now who others think she should be. Visit her blog at: http://emphasisonmoms.blogspot.com.