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The Gal My Son Dates ~ By Dionna Sanchez

 

For every mother the time will come when her son (or daughter) begins to date.  It can bring up all sorts of emotions and feelings.  You can be amused by the new excitement that surfaces in your child and over their preoccupation with this other individual.  You can get frustrated because they develop a new kind of "forgetfulness" or seeming uncaring attitude towards things that don't have to do with this new person in their life.

Whatever and wherever these relationships go, it is important for you to develop a relationship with this new young man or lady.  In my case, it was a young lady.  I decided that I wanted to get to know her - to invest of myself into her.  Yes, it was a risk.  She could have refused my intentions or even worse, they could have broken up and then not only would my son be heartbroken, but if I had developed an attachment - I too, would be heartbroken.  But I took that risk anyways because I believed it was important.

In this day and age there are many ways to get to know and develop a personal relationship with young adults.  You can email, get on MySpace and start getting to know them that way, chat with them via an instant messenger system, or do it the old fashioned way and take them out to lunch (WITHOUT your child), or to a movie.

In my case, my stepson ended up marrying the young lady he dated.  And the time I spent investing in her beforehand paid off because she knew I cared and wanted to get to know her for her. She is now truly an extension of my family not just in name, but also in my heart.

Take the time to get to know the people your children date.  Show them you care about them not just because you have to but because you want to.  Develop a relationship with them that is separate from your child so that they feel like they can be a part of your family.  Whatever happens, there are never regrets when love is involved.

 

~ Dionna Sanchez loves being a mother-in-law. You can visit her blog at http://www.emphasisonmoms.blogspot.com